Adam Lambert: My mom dragged me out of closet

Adam keeps bouncing around all of Europe and now Scandinavia, but always manages to give great interviews. It’s uncanny how direct, open and honest he is. This is from a teen magazine in Finland. It’s one of the best interviews I’ve read. Hope you think so too!

~ Carol ~
About the career:

What is the most personal song on your album?
– Broken Open. It’s about intimacy, that moment when someone is ready to release the wall around them and show himself to other, show good and bad side of him. The other says it’s okay, I accept you just the way you are.

Did you find writing process of the song hard for you?
– No, it felt good. It was like therapy.

There’s a song called Voodoo on the new version of your album. Who would you like to make a voodoo doll and why?
– Bill Kaulitz from Tokio Hotel! He’s so cute, so beautiful.

Wait, are you jealous of him, why are you thinking of making a doll?
– No, the opposite. He attracts me, he’s so appealing. I would like to meet him. I would like to go shopping with him!

You just came here from Germany. Why didn’t your meeting take place then?
– He’s busy. And straight. That’s why the doll, hehe!

Has anyone of your friends started to act differently after you became famous?
– A few of my friends were scared I would draw myself away from them. I had to convince them that wouldn’t happen and I still love them even though I am busy. Some of buddies – not my friends – wanted suddenly be so close with me. Didn’t work out!

About love:

Who was your first love?
– My ex boyfriend, we started dating when I was 25 years old. It was awesome and beautiful. We were together for two years.

Why did you break up?
– I guess we just grew apart. In the end we wanted different things. I learnt and grew up so much during our relationship. We’re still friends and I think that’s great.

How did you manage to accept your sexuality when you were young?
– It was hard during my teen years. I had no one to look up to. I didn’t know anyone else that was gay, not a single one person. Internet did exist but there was no Facebook or MySpace yet. There were some chats but I was afraid of them like pestilence, I was afraid of losing my anonymity and someone would find out. I felt myself like an alien, totally different from the others. I knew that things will work out when it’s time but at school I couldn’t talk about it to anyone.

When and how did you tell your parents?
– My mom dragged me out of closet! She asked me once if I had a girlfriend. I said no. “Would you like to get one?” “No.” “Well do you have a boyfriend?” “No.” “Would you like to have?” “Yeah!”

Well that was easy.
– While discussing about it my mom told me she always had known I was gay. I wondered why didn’t she tell me sooner. She had talked about it with some people and they had convinced her she shouldn’t push me. They said I would tell her when I was ready. I said her you should have pushed!

What kind of advice would you give to our readers that are wondering their sexual orientation?
– It’s hard to be different. If you feel like lonely believe there are a lot of people like you in the world. Some day you will get to know them and you will accepted. Try to think positive. If people think of you negative don’t care about them. Their opinion doesn’t matter.

What kind of person are you in your relationships?
– I am independent. I’ve always succeeded on my own. Sort of, that was the reason I was lonely for a long time. If I’m not interested in someone I become very unaffiliated. It’s been scary to notice how quick I might become codependent of my boyfriend. I have to work on finding balance between my traits.

Are you jealous?
– I always thought I wouldn’t. I am quite realistic and good to discuss about every subject but in the end… yeah, I’m damn jealous. Possessive and jealous.

How do you act when you go to jealous mode?
– I try to get out of it. Discussing about it with the other person usually helps. I’ve learnt a lot of myself and understood I am intensively passionate personality. Apparently there’s too much to handle sometimes but that’s who I am. And some people like intensive!

Are you seeing someone right now?
– No. I’m single.

Do you believe in love at first sight?
– I believe in strong mutual attraction and intuition at first sight, and one might foresee someone being special. For falling in love I however have to get to know with the person better.

About me:

Describe yourself with three words.
– Intensive. Friendly. Talkative.

Which word would your friends add to that?
– A bit of crazy. (laughs)

Which appearance related things were you insecure while being a teen?
– Where should I start from? I worried about my weight, body, skin – that is a problem still – and my masculinity. It’s needed differently in America than in Europe. I love European culture with masculine sense of beauty are different. Over here masculine beauty and cuteness is appreciated.

How did you get away from your insecurity?
– One by one I understood they don’t matter. I started to notice good characters about myself and love myself from inside. I believe when someone is on first-name basis with themselves they look attractive in eyes of the others. Not everyone can look like a model. The most important is accepting yourself and understand there are more important things in the world than what do you look like. It’s useless try to be perfect because no one is.

When and why did you cry the last time?
I regress to a baby while watching the movies and tv series. When I watched the 4th season “Skins” a while ago I started to bawl whena girl couple Naomi and Emily had an intimate moment. Actors in Skins are so great!

About people:

Which nicknames do your close ones call you?
– Family and friends don’t nickname me but my fans call me Glambert. I think that fits to me!

Who is the most important person in your life?
– (thinking) Probably my parents. My family… my mom.

When do you come to meet your fans in Finland? You’re way more popular in here than in Sweden!
– That’s what I heard! You’ve got good taste. Hopefully I can visit soon!

After the interview it’s been confirmed Adam performs in X Factor Finland on 2nd May.

Adam in short analysis

We gave a word, Adam replied the first word bumped to his mind.

Scary – Sadness
Joy – Singing
Envy – Luck
Inspiration – Glitter
Nature – Green
Happiness – Satisfaction
Beauty – Confidence

About Carol

I started writing on this site back in May 2009, not knowing what I was in for or where it would take me. I had no idea of the joy and personal satisfaction I'd find here. I never dreamed that I'd get to meet Adam, but that dream came true! The bonus of becoming such great friends with Lila and the other fans is what keeps me going. Music gets me though every day. In addition to Adam, I love Muse, Linkin Park, 80s and finding newer bands and supporting them by attending everything that's within 350 miles. With Adam, the boundaries are farther! Thanks for joining us on this ride! :)

Comments

  1. EternalGlamNation says:

    Let me add one more word to Adam’s list:

    Adam – Perfection

  2. What a nice respectful and informative article. Thanks again Sue for keeping us so up to date. I sometimes see these posted elsewhere but I love seeing them here because it’s so much fun to be able to comment within this “circle of friends”. Never have to see the creepy “trolls” comments, and everyone has their own perceptive outlook. We may not always agree with each other, on the little things, but it always makes me think. Its nice to have a place to feel safe in sharing our love for that amazing human (or glittery alien) being who is Adam. After all, even my Adam-fan husband gets a little tired of my sometimes annoying(?!) habit of comparing every other singer to Adam. Although, I must report that Adam’s ways have apparently worn off on my hubby also because during his Boston Marathon run recently he took time out to kiss two or three of the Wellesley College girls who every year line the course at the College and invite the runners to kiss them as they go by. I thought that was hilarious (and a bit shocking as my husband doesn’t normally kiss other girls, and he’s no spring chicken!) and informed him that I will take that as permission to take advantage of any opportunities that come my way in the future!!!! The Power of Adam!!!

    • Mary,
      It was me this time, not Sue! I’ve been missing for a while, sorry!

      Carol – Glamb #7

      • Oops! Sorry Carol, nice to “see” you again, I need to read the “fine print” next time! You do a great job too, by the way!!!

    • Mary~ i agree with you….i always check other sites too, but i love this one the most because i like seeing the names with the comments. Its a nice circle of fans…..
      Its also nice to know that other ladies are as obsessed as i am and their husbands also get annoyed with their obsession……..ADAM!! My husband is totally running out of patience with me.
      Oh well, whatever……..it is what it is!!

      • Libraglam says:

        Mine too! hahaha…….i can see that my husband pretend to do something else or look somewhere else when i kept talking about ADAM….i tried to shut my mouth a little bit…but sometimes…just can’t help….since every day we have “news’ about ADAM….

        Thanks everyone to contribute their thoughts and let me share the same ” passion” for ADAM here. Without this site …probably….my husband would %^&**@#$% because it is kind of annoying when a wife keep telling her husband that how much she “loves” him…and how beautiful he is….everyday!!

        I better “release” my feelings here….cuz i know that i need a partner to take me to the concert in July (that’s my husband) …..hahahaha!!

        (Welll….worse thing…we all can go togehter without hubby !!)

        • You’ve got that right! The way i always talk about Adam you’d think he was a member of our family. It drives my family nuts….except for one of my daughters……..she love him as much as i do……she’s the one who i’ll go to the concerts with!! I can’t wait, but my venue’s tickets still haven’t gone on sale yet and i’m soooo afraid that i’ll miss the boat!

          • cmhagey says:

            My husband thinks I’m having a mid-life crisis! If that’s so, at least it’s safe . . . and extremely enjoyable!

            Carol – Glamb #7

            • Mary H says:

              Absolutely! My husband does think I’m a little obsessed (yep….) but I’m sure he would agree that it could be a lot worse! Haven’t run off to “find myself’ yet. As long as I can run off to Adam’s concerts once in awhile I’m happy!

  3. scootersmom says:

    Thank goodness Adam’s overcome his shyness, insecurities, etc…and it’s our job to see that he stays outgoing, secure, confident and happy, knowing his fans love him just the way he was, is now and will be in the future!

  4. scootersmom says:

    Also, his most beautiful trait has nothing to do with his physical looks…it’s his honesty that makes us old broads love him! So rare to see such honesty.

  5. Yeah, a Prescription : if one’s life is boring, HAVE SOME ADAM !

  6. He’ll not only take you out of the box, … he’ll take you out of the closet too ! ! !

  7. its our job to see he stays in the States too…… they like him so much in Europe he might want to stay if it gets too hard for him here

  8. Thanks Carol for the post. I do appreciate all that you ladies do by posting every day, something about
    Adam. The post, by the way, are excellent!!!!

    It’s great to see Adam in all his glory, enjoying himself and so confident!

    Thanks again!
    slainte!

  9. I do feel Adam will move to London or anywhere but United States, it’s so sad America cannot embrace him like he deserves. I wouldn’t blame if he left. We are such a homophophic nation, I wish I could leave with Adam. Love him to death. I’m a straight 50 yr old women and cannot get enough of Adam, but I do feel America will lose him!

    • Libraglam says:

      If you can introduce or find him a boyfriend…..you will save all of our lives ! (laugh)

  10. LolaGlamb says:

    I don’t think if it happens, it will be anytime soon. Truly success anywhere else in the world cannot compare with success in the US, particularly financially. If that is important to him, he needs to remain here at least for the time being. I may be wrong about this, I am certainly no expert, it is just my surmise. All of the records sold in all of the other countries combined do not come close to how many he has sold in the US.
    I hope, also, that there are a lot more fans and supporters of our BB than there are detractors, however vocal they are. His family and friends are here, and until he became famous and experienced some of the asses in more conservative parts of the US, he has said he didn’t even realize how backwards parts of the US are. He still lives in Hollywood, so hopefully for the most part he is surrounded with the same people he has always known. And my friends, when he goes on tour, I know we will greet him all over the country and let him see just how much he is loved and appreciated.

  11. Micki (Glamb #535) says:

    As he gets more established, financially, I could see him doing what a lot of big-name artists and actors (& others in the entertainment biz) do, and getting himself a place in one or more of the big centers with a good nightlife, like NY or London or Berlin, and residing part time in Hollywood & part time in one of those places or similar. I could easily see NY because he has friends & family there or nearby, & London or Berlin because of how much he’s said he loves those cities & their reputations for both substantial nightlife and being alternative-lifestyle friendly. Just my thoughts.

  12. Mary H says:

    My (hopefully not naive) dream is that with Adam’s visibility (and charm) and with other gay and lesbian celebrities such as Ellen Degeneres becoming more “mainstream” , America will become more accepting in the future so that he doesn’t need to leave in order to live his life. I think in a way, the media makes it sound worse than it is , because they still tend to make such a big fuss about his sexual orientation rather than the more important things, like his talent. I would be a little surprised to see him move to Europe full time, although anything is possible. (I would like to spend more time in London, have been there and loved it!)) As others have said, he has his many friends and family in LA and there are many areas in this country that are open to people being who they are, east and west coast especially. And considering how well he did on Idol, even with all the “speculation” going on, and the huge crowds that basically made the Idol tour the “Adam Tour” even in the places that he was a little worried that he wouldn’t get as much support , and his sold out concerts so far, I know he does feel the love and support of his fans. It will just increase with time and positive exposure to his talent and personality.

  13. I tend towards depression, but Adam always cheers me up! I know it doesn’t make sense, but listening to him sing or talk, or just looking at him, somehow changes my attitude!

  14. Reem alamiry says:

    I lovet it Tanks carol xo